My friend is a bright and bubbly person, but even so I was in for another shock - when she rang a higher day and said she is having, wait for it - a BYE BYE BOOBY party! So there we all were on the Saturday before B-Day occurring on the Monday. A small group of close provider with party food, wine or even a cake within the shape and colour of a boob - tip toeing around conversation topics and stealing brief glances at our friend to see how all this was affecting her. She was steely and chatty, but you might notice a little pre-occupied and for fantastic reason.
Now some months later, she has got on with living this new lifestyle she never asked for or dreamed might happen to her and has endured all what horrible consequences chemotherapy has to offer. Full of surprises as she has proven to be - as soon as she was discharged from hospital she immediately had her head shaven announcing to me - "I don't want to wait until it falls out, I'll get rid of it all now!"
Not once, in any of the many conversations we have had has she shown one ounce of negativity or "why did it happen to me" syndrome or speak in a depressed tone. Why? Absolutely without a doubt she embraces POSITIVE THINKING! She can personally see that taking the other road, may not improve her life in anyway. Being positive helps to get her through one day at a time and look to the destiny. And there ARE aspects to look forward to!
I know she looks forward to: finishing the last two chemo sessions so she can enjoy feeling well again
I know she looks forward to: a new breast being created
I know she looks forward to: her hair returning
I know she looks forward to, most of all: having the assurance the cancer will never return!
Anyone using today's technology and specifically I'm in the case of search engines, will find scientific research and personal accounts substantiating that breast cancer and positive thinking are linked. Of course, positive thinking can radically change any mental or physical subject not just breast cancer.
Rachel Charles from the UK is a victim of breast cancer and has written several books in the case of the fighting spirit and mind, body and immunity. In an article titled - the Power of Positive Thinking - she documented her personal journey coping with this insidious disease and she outlines an amazing discovery along the way in her quest to be told more:
Psychoneuroimmunology: the science that studies the effect that the mind and emotions have on the immune system. Previously it had been supposed that immunity operated on its own, responding directly to harmful organisms, but here were research papers showing that the nervous and immune systems might 'talk' to every other by way of chemical messengers. This meant that both conscious and unconscious physical activities of the mind, including thoughts and mood, might affect the way that the white defence cells behave, causing them to be either more or much less effective. Both medical mavens and psychotherapists have been aware for some time of the close connections between mind and body, often observing that patients with 'fighting spirit' do higher than those who give in to their illness. Such observations, however, have been merely anecdotal and have therefore lacked scientific credibility. Here at last were clean explanations of how a positive mental attitude might actually help boost immunity, and thereby encourage the body to heal itself. I now incredibly understood how it was that cancer patients who used visualization had a more robust prognosis than those who did nothing. These observations had been made in particular by Carl and Stephanie Simonton at their Cancer Counselling and Research Center in Dallas, Texas, and recounted in full in their simplest-selling book Getting Well Again.
Barbara Ehrenreich writes in The Guardian (2 January 2010) of her battle with breast cancer announcing:
There was an urgent medical reason to embrace cancer with a smile: a "positive attitude" is supposedly essential to recovery. There were many times throughout chemotherapy, she encountered this assertion on web pages, in books, from oncology nurses and fellow sufferers. One study found 60% of ladies who had been treated for the disease attributing their continued survival to a "positive attitude".
In a contemporary e-zine article entitled Breast Cancer Prevention Tips - and the notion of breast cancer "prevention" should itself set off alarms, since there's no known means of prevention - for example, advises that: "A simple positive and optimistic attitude has been shown to reduce the risk of cancer. This will sound amazing to many of us; however, it will suffice to explain that several medical studies have demonstrated the link between a positive attitude and an improved immune system."
Indeed, there is even a Positive Thinking Day set apart for September thirteen and within the 2008 Most Positive Person Contest, one of the award winners is a breast cancer survivor - Denise J. Hart. At the time of the competition she was a 5 year breast cancer survivor. She describes herself with a positive upbeat outlook and profoundly believes that her thoughts not only affect her wellbeing, but the whole universe. She has even created a positive message t-shirt provider to reflect her beliefs and to help women live a more inspired and courageous life.
I wish to go away you with the following, for something you might be suffering with in your life and know that POSITIVE THINKING does make a difference!
How to Begin Your Positive Day!
1. Affirmations - Affirmations everyday will help change the way you think - read books and listen to audios - there are many web pages to assist you as well in this purpose.
2. Intention - "Attitude" is the simplest word within the dictionary! Make it your intention when you wake up every morning to have a positive day!
three. Trigger - Choose a particular regular daily routine (I make a regular habit of focusing on giving thanks for all I have when I'm driving) to trigger a positive thought.
5. Gratitude - I keep a "gratitude pebble" (just a small stone from the garden) beside my computer at work so that when I'm flat out and stressed, it reminds me of all I am grateful for and slows me right down to appreciate the moment. Keeping a log is a worthwhile exercise because as you write every part of your life you are grateful for down, you are affirming that two-fold - the thought and the action.
6. Inspiration - How many times have you ever gained an inspirational YouTube video through your emails and your whole spirit is lifted for those few minutes? Seek out inspirational and motivational material to make you feel fantastic. When you feel fantastic you will act like a ricochet with of us around you who can't help but feel the same affect.
7. Positive of us - Hard to do in many conditions, especially in your work place, but try to surround yourself with positive of us who can help you stay positively focused. Your attitude can make a difference to others.
8. Love Yourself First - It is not being selfish or an act of narcissism. You must feel you are a special and worthwhile human being in order to value everyone you come into contact with.
9. Opportunity - Look past the immediate subject you've found yourself in and see what room there is within the "bigger picture" for boom and opportunity.
10. Smile - The one "light up the life of another" facial expression which is universal! It has no language barrier. It not only makes you feel fantastic but the person who abruptly receives it! If you're a tightwad with everything else in your life - DON'T BE with your SMILE!
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